You know what they say: hindsight is 20/20. Don’t we all wish we could have the wisdom we get from going through hardships before we endure them?
When I reflect on the three phrases that have helped me in the past and guided me toward my future, I realize the one thing they all have in common is that they have been passed down to me from my dad.
So, in honor of Father’s Day earlier this week, I decided I’d share some of his wise words with you because, let’s face it; we’re all going through something— a breakup, a transition, a milestone, a decision, a move, love, loss, or something in-between.
This first one used to seem like a joke to me, one of those silly things parents say that doesn’t help at the time but perhaps makes sense later on. When I came in crying after my first serious breakup with my high school sweetheart, my dad’s choice of comforting words before I sulked to my room were…
No one has ever died from heartache.
Ouch. But two more major breakups and seven years later, I can safely say this advice is true. Heartache may be the worst possible feeling, but eventually it ends; your life doesn’t. You grow and you move on.
The other two things my dad has said for as long as I can remember have always remained in the back of my mind, especially when I was in college and throughout the choices I’ve made since.
Do what you love and the money will follow. & Follow your bliss.
These were my dad’s way of instilling in me the belief that there are intangible things more important than money, and if you listen to those (be they your passions, hopes, or dreams), money will take care of itself.
This isn’t to say that you can be careless with your finances (I’ve definitely had a few lectures from him regarding that too!), but things have a way of working out if you are truly in touch with your soul’s desire. And, if you follow your bliss– again, your dream or your calling– I think the universe will help everything else align in your favor.
Sometimes we forget our parents are people, too, who’ve learned by trial and error just as we have. Their wisdom isn’t from a parenting book; it’s more likely from living and enduring, making mistakes, and overcoming obstacles – the same sort we experience ourselves.
So join me in raising a glass to our fathers– or any older, wiser, influential men that have made you a bit smarter, life a little easier, and the harder times more bearable. Cheers, dads! (And thanks!)
What advice has your dad (or grandfather or uncle, etc.) given you? Have they passed down any wise words that have helped you through a tough time or difficult decision? Share it with us in the comments!