27 Jun

Wedding Wednesday POLL: Should You Live Together Before Marriage?

I have a friend who is planning to move in with her boyfriend in the coming months, and we were talking about living together before marriage.  Travis and I moved in together less than a year into our relationship and spent three years shacked up before heading down the aisle.  My friend agreed that living together was important for her before marriage, but she was happy spending a year or less under the same roof before making the plunge.


For me, I feel like living with someone before you agree to spend your entire life with them is a smart move.  What if you’re styles of cohabiting are totally different and living together is more stressful than fun?  Beyond that, I know from experience that Travis and I learned a lot about each other simply from being around each other all the time and living in the same apartment.

On the other hand, I have another friend who won’t move in until after the wedding ceremony.  And there’s something unbelievably romantic about that.  When she gets married, she will really be starting her life with her husband.  (Travis and I had “started our life together” years before he put a ring on it.)

I’d love to know what you think…

Will you (or did you) live with your significant other before marriage?  What made you choose to do one or the other?  Share your thoughts in the comments!

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{ posted: Wednesday, June 27, 2012 }


Comments: {2}

  • Alexa writes:

    i think marriage means something different for every couple, so it depends on what marriage means to you and your significant other… to each their own!

  • Bria writes:

    My husband and I have an interesting set up because we’re married and we’re still not living together. Odd, I know. When I made the decision to renew my lease instead of moving in with him last year, I was unaware that he would be proposing shortly thereafter. Once he proposed, we planned our wedding and were married within 6 months. We are moving to a new city together, and his house is currently on the market. So, to us, it only seemed logical to keep the separate homes on the off chance that his house sells (and we both end up homeless before the move). We spend every night together, but technically, we are still not living together. In less than a month that will change!

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