28 Mar

Wedding Wednesday: In Opposition Of A Giant Wedding Party

People often wonder how many people they should include in their wedding party and I’m here to tell you that it’s worth going small!

{our awesome wedding party}

Now before I go any further let me say that at the end of the day you should do whatever you want.  If you want to have ten people standing up with you, go for it!  If you want to nix the wedding party completely, do so.  And if you and your guy want to have different numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen, by all means.

Travis and I each had three people stand up with us.  His groomsmen consisted of his two brothers and mine.  My bridal party consisted of three close friends who I’ve known since high school.  It would have been really easy for me to go bigger— I have cousins who are like sisters to me and not including them was really hard on me.

But we chose to keep the parties small, and I’m so glad we did!  Here’s why:

-More people = more opinions. Ok, the groomsmen offered zero opinions.  But my bridesmaids had plenty!  The people pleaser in me felt the need to hear everyone out about all kinds of details, and at times even three differing opinions made me a little crazy.

-Gifts for 7 is a lot more expensive. This may sound silly, but considering all the hard work that the bridal party puts in, I really wanted to get them a special gift.  I ended up getting each of my girls Tiffany necklaces, something I wouldn’t have been able to afford had I gone with a big group of ‘maids.

-You’ll still be friends later. People who include all sorts of friends in their wedding party might look back on their wedding photos and wish that half of them weren’t littered with people they’re no longer in touch with.  I wanted to choose people who had been in my life a long time and who I’d likely stay close to.

As I said, it’s all about doing what’s right for you.  But having a small bridal party makes things a little less stressful.  And when you’re planning a wedding, that goes a looong way!

How big is the perfect wedding party?  How many did you have (or do you plan to have)?  Anyone in favor of super big wedding parties?  (I’d love to hear your side of things!)

{ posted: Wednesday, March 28, 2012 }


Comments: {2}

  • Vannessa writes:

    im so tied between the two! my bf hasnt proposed yet
    but im a typical girl who had been planing since she could read!
    I come from a tight-knit family, & as for my bridal party,
    I have 2 sisters, 2 Godsisters, & 1 co-mother (a cousin of mine in which I am her son’s Godmother) thats a total of 5 potential bridesmaids at the very least!

    I dont want to dissappoint anyone (or their mothers) but im either going to make cuts or start saving NOW!

    thank you for this post & all other posts! I love them all!

    ps that “better than cinnamon rolls” recipe was quick, a crowd pleaser, & AMAZING! thank you sooo much!!

  • Sara writes:

    I would prob have 4 or 5 at MaX!! I want to keep the stress level at a minimum and only have those very very close to me.. I find wedding parties that are huge pretty silly.. it looks disorganized..

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