9 Aug

The Art of Being Alone

So, it’s Friday night and you don’t have any plans. Not because you don’t have any options, but because you chose to be alone. Some of you may think it’s a crazy proposition… but is it?


In a world where we are constantly connected— inundated by the noise of texting, Facebook, Twitter, and email alerts; blaring Pandora in our headphones; going from work to gym to play— it can be shocking to sit still in a quiet house.  On the other hand, it can be a reprieve to find some solitude in your hectic life. It can feel as though you have your own space to call yours and the rest of the world is shut out, even if only for a night.

Our society seems to connect being alone to loneliness, when in fact these are two very different things. Alone time is truly so important. It’s a time where we don’t have to be anywhere, we don’t have to get ready for anyone or anything, and we can just be.

So, what can you do when you’re alone? You can do a little bit of nothing, which many times, includes the things we never make time to do. Try any of the below for some satisfying downtime away from your hectic go-go-go schedule.

1. Pamper your oh-so-deserving self. I feel like I’m always in a rush to get ready. When I finally have some “me time” I like to do some extra feel-good steps: put a good-smelling lotion on after a shower, use a facemask, exfoliate, whiten my teeth … you get the idea.

2. Make that long overdue phone call to a friend or family member.

3. Lay in bed (because none of us actually spend enough time there!) and get lost in a magazine, or even better, a book.

4. Do the little things you’ve been putting off. Order prints of your most recent photos to fill that empty frame or deep clean your bathroom. (Yes, cleaning isn’t that glamorous but it’s oddly therapeutic.)

5. Cook. When was the last time you actually made a meal that involved more thought than which Lean Cuisine you should microwave? It’s so much easier to get take-out, I know. But there’s something soothing about using your hands to make something and a house that smells like baked goodness. Real Simple and Cooking Light have great recipes and the blog Carrots ‘N Cake has innovative healthy ones, too.

If you’re feeling ambitious, try a digital detox for a night. And for some more feel-good things to try, check out these YOLO-inspired ideas.

Come the next morning, I guarantee you’ll feel recharged just by doing something for you. Even if that something was a little bit of nothing!

What are your thoughts on spending some quality alone time? Do you have any favorite ways to wind down? Share them below!

{ posted: Thursday, August 9, 2012 }


Comments: {1}

  • Sarah Pope writes:

    Great post! I think we get caught up in everything a lot, and its great to have some down time.

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