28 Sep

POLL: How Old Do You Want To Be When You Have Kids?

Over the past year, I’ve been fluctuating between wanting to have a baby now now now and wanting to wait a few years to have some time to develop my career.  I don’t know what it is, but I’ve had some serious baby fever lately.  (Don’t get too excited, Mom… I still plan on waiting a while!)


I was a nanny for many years and before I started cosmetology school, I taught mommy-and-me music classes in San Francisco.  So I am definitely a kid lover.  But those experiences have also taught me just how hard it is to raise a child.  And I guess I’m still a little too interested in sleeping in on Saturday mornings to have a baby right now.

There are pros and cons to having a baby at any age.  Young parents may have more energy, but they may also be giving up career aspirations in order to prioritize family.  Older parents likely have more wisdom, but they may not be as flexible after spending so many years doing their own pre-baby thing.

What do you think?

How old do you hope to be (or how old were you) when you have kids?  What’s your reasoning?  How many kids would you like?  Let’s talk babies in the comments!

{ posted: Tuesday, September 28, 2010 }


Comments: {2}

  • Sirleen writes:

    I voted for 25-30, but as a young mother I know it’s possible to have babies early and then have a career later in life. I did.

  • Mariposa writes:

    I waited till I was 33 to have my first child. I just wasn’t ready to give up my freedom (and irresponsibility!). I traveled extensively, and never regretted waiting. I would have regretted missing out on traveling, etc, had I become a mother earlier. I had my second child at 40!
    Over all, a younger mother has LOTS more energy, and is probably more fun! I was less up for endless romps, & chases. I know I was wiser, and more patient.
    A big consideration is to remember that a woman’s fertility declines in her 30’s. Pregnancy at 40 turned into complications and bed-rest.
    Being a fully involved mom means you give up your identity! You become Mom. When you meet other mom’s, you introduce yourselves as “Jack’s mom”… Your needs, wants, desires, are all on hold for at least a few years. If you are ready for that, it’s WONDERFUL!
    Travis’s mom is THE BEST mother I know. She is AWESOME. (So is his dad!) She has been a terrific source of ideas, knowledge, insight, ways to have fun, support, etc. Your kids will be so blessed with GREAT parents, and grandparents.

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