Today, I’m answering a question sent in from a reader, just like you! Kristine asks:
I have a wedding dress that I bought when I was with my ex-fiance, but the wedding was called off. Now I have an amazing Maggie Sottero dress hanging in my closet, and don’t know what to do with it. My mom wants me to hold onto it for my next wedding (whenever that is) and maybe just change it up a little, like adding a colored sash or something.
I am split on making my decision. On one hand, I already have a dress, so thats one less expense down the road. On the other hand, that was a dress purchased for the wedding of my ex. What do you think? Should I hang onto it, and just alter it in some way? Or sell it and get a whole new one when that time comes? What did you do with your dress after the wedding?
Kristine, I can see how this would be such a tough decision! It’s so much more than a dress— it’s a super emotional symbol of your past relationship, and that’s hard to part with. But the truth is, that wedding dress was meant for a different wedding, a different man, and a different you.
You’re supposed to feel like a million bucks on your wedding day. It’s an exciting new chapter and a time to look to the future. Personally, I know I’d feel pretty uncomfortable wearing a dress that reminded me of a past relationship. And there certainly shouldn’t be any pressure from your mom to hang onto it if that doesn’t feel right to you! Just like the rest of your wedding day, the dress you choose is up to you and should reflect what you really want on your big day.
If selling your dress feels right to you, there are a few places you can list it. Plenty of brides peruse Craigslist for wedding-related needs. But you can also visit Preowned Wedding Dresses and Wedding Bee Classifieds, which will give it lots of exposure. To save on wedding expenses down the line, you could always put the money you make from the gown into an account that’s earmarked for another dress when the time comes.
Hope this helps, Kristine… best of luck!
What do you think Kristine should do about the wedding dress in her closet? Did I give her the right advice, or do you think she should hang onto the gown? Help her out by sharing your opinion in the comments!